Early in my teens I started inquiring ‘Who am I?’. This quest has led me to develop CFIT Psychology, a transformational development model based on letting go of identities. I am speaking of thirty years of self-discovery, in-depth meditations, studies in India in ancient philosophies and Eastern Psychology followed by case studies, and witnessing my clients.

I love walking the woods on paths that no one else has walked upon. I do the same in life. I decided instead of following a treated path, I trust my own intuition. All the while, being very supported by mentors and teachers and taking perspectives of coaches and friends into account.

Taking the feeling that I don’t fit in, I decided to share my uniqueness as an inspiration for others. This is both an invitation for you to trust your own truth as well as support for deep sacred intimacy with yourself, your partner and the universe at large.

How I think about sex

All my life people told me that my sexuality was not a fit. My desire for deep intimacy, not ejaculation focused did not match the cultural, social nor personal view of my partners.

After years of exploring a way of sexuality that suited my body and preferences through self-pleasuring, I wrote a manual for sacred intimacy based on Yogic principles.

Finally, I met teachers, who not only supported my view, but agreed that normal human sexuality is disgusting. Further, one mentor described that he views normal sex in a long-term relationship as more harming to the subtle energy system of a person than a one time rape. That got my attention.

How to deeply enter into new ways of lovemaking, instead of overlaying tantric sex on top of normal just for better orgasms, that’s a journey of discovery into the mysteries of the universe.

You don’t need to live up to what everyone else does. Indeed, most couples are not happy. There is more out there to discover about blissful encounters than what the media sells us.

I considered becoming a nun, but I found that awakening Kundalini life-force can be a shared journey (with or without sex).

I look forward to supporting your unique journey and discovery.

Dr. Xian

What people say about Dr. Xian

Knowledgeable, fun, serene, present, connected, intuitive, spot-on, available, caring.

“Dr. Xian is powerful in her presence.”

Dr. Xian Prem, Ph.D.
Mystic, Scholar, and triple certified Coach

I hold a Ph.D. in Psychology, an M.A. in Transpersonal Psychology and B.A.s in Psychology and Business Administration. I am a certified 5Rhythms Movement Meditation Facilitator, a certified Angel Therapy Practitioner and certified in Clarity Breathwork as well as a Licensed Minister and triple certified life coach including Master Somatic Coach with Strozzi Institute.

My unique combination of life in Western and Eastern hemispheres, cosmic interests of beyond the personal, and research in transcendent experiences and gratitude have led me to bring transcendence and daily life, together in a unique offering of Kundalini awakening, wellbeing, and sexual healing.

Spiritual Emergence?
Wanting more than Normal?
Sexual Trauma?
Sports Injuries Hopelessness?

Contact me to support your unique path!

Dr. Xian is a member of the following professional organizations

Dr. Xian has presented at the following conferences

SANDS Nondual Conference
ACISTE American Center for the Integration of Spiritually Transformative Experiences Annual Conference
IEATA International Expressive Arts Therapy Association International Conference
IASD International Association of the Study of Dreams International Conference
ATP Association of Transpersonal Psychology 50th Anniversary Conference

Dr. Xian’s Resumé


  • 2020

    Ph.D. in Psychology

  • 2019

    Master Somatic Coach by Strozzi Institute


  • 2017

    M.A. in Transpersonal Psychology

    Certification in Transformational Coaching
    Certification in Creative Expression

  • 2015

    B.A. in Psychology


  • 2013

    Clarity Breathwork Practitioner

  • 2011

    5Rhythms Movement Facilitator


  • 2003

    Traditional Thai Massage Practitioner

    Chiang Mai Style

  • 1998

    B.A. in Business Administration

    Certification as Bilingual Assistant
    Certification as Corporate Business Woman
    Through the Chamber of Commerce in Germany


Work History

  • 2015 to Present

    Director of CFIT LLC

  • 2010 - Present

    Volunteer at Embracting the World Humanitarian Organization

    Dance Workshop Facilitator
    Guest Relations

    2010 - Present

  • 2004-2007

    Volunteer at Swami Rama’s Ashram in India

    Yoga Teacher
    Meditation Teacher
    Mentor of Students
    Mentor of Silence Retreat Participants
    Assistant of Academic Director for student management and curricula
    Yoga Teacher Training Assistant

  • 2000-2003

    Director of AWUD LLC Marketing Agency


  • 2002-Present

    Personal Sessions

    Spiritual Guidance
    Mentor of Spiritual Practitioners

  • 1998 - 2000

    Corporate World Controlling and Accounting

    Including for international subsidairies

    1998 - 2000